So, I knew Doodle was a big baby.\u00a0 It wasn\u2019t until Honeybun’s\u00a0ballet class a few weeks ago, though, that I learned he was actually \u201cmacrosomic\u201d or extremely big.\u00a0 Another ballet mom is pregnant (also expecting her first boy after 2 girls) and was informed by her perinatologist (high-risk pregnancy specialist–ironically the same crappy doctor that made me cry earlier in my pregnancy) that because her baby would most likely also be macrosomic due to gestational diabetes, she would need a c-section as Florida mandates all babies over 4000 g be delivered via c-section.\u00a0 I did the quick math in my head (thanks to the 2 \u00bd years I spent in Ireland) and realized that is approximately 8.8 pounds, which is less than Doodle was (officially it is 8 pounds, 13 ounces\u2026an ounce less than Doodle).<\/p>\n
So, I took to google yet again.\u00a0 This Florida Law thing the Doctor referred to does not exist as far as I can tell.\u00a0 I have another friend who years ago told me her doctor said Florida doesn\u2019t allow more than 3 c-sections, which also appears to be some made up doctor rule (that friend, by the way, had her 4th<\/sup> c-section right here in Florida last year).<\/p>\n I became disheartened with the American obstetric system when I was pregnant with Honeybun and was informed by my doctor at the time that I would be induced at 40 weeks and could not deliver at the hospital I wanted despite her having privileges there.\u00a0 Doctors, especially in obstetrics, in my opinion have become too powerful.\u00a0 Most women trust their doctor as the final authority on all things baby but unfortunately not all doctors always have their patients best interests in mind.<\/p>\n There is a lot of debate out there on why the maternity system in America has gone so far the wrong way (a 32% c-section rate, is that really necessary?).\u00a0 My personal opinion is that doctors are afraid of being \u201cwrong\u201d.\u00a0 They believe the best way to ensure a good outcome is to do everything they possibly can when really, doing nothing is often just as safe, if not safer. The more a mother is poked and prodded at, the more uncomfortable she gets and the more unbearable labor and birth becomes.<\/p>\n I can say from personal experience, being left alone is the most comfortable way to have a baby.\u00a0 With Doodle, I felt safe knowing my midwife was there watching over things to ensure everything was fine but was thankful she just let me do my thing.\u00a0 \u00a0\u00a0With Honeybun, when I was pushed into an induction, I did trust the midwives and doctors I was seeing and in hindsight, I shouldn\u2019t have.\u00a0 I should have pushed back more and said not yet or refused interventions in the hospital when they probably weren\u2019t really needed.<\/p>\n My friend I mentioned at the beginning of this post has since decided to stop seeing the perinatologist.\u00a0 I only wish there were more support for moms who listen to their guts and choose to seek care that suits better suits their instincts.\u00a0 Doctors are not the be all, end all experts we put them up to be.\u00a0 They\u2019re just human and no other person knows your body better than you!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" So, I knew Doodle was a big baby.\u00a0 It wasn\u2019t until Honeybun’s\u00a0ballet class a few weeks ago, though, that I learned he was actually \u201cmacrosomic\u201d or extremely big.\u00a0 Another ballet mom is pregnant (also expecting her first boy after 2 girls) and was informed by her perinatologist (high-risk pregnancy specialist–ironically the same crappy doctor that […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[8,9],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-995","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-baby-business","category-family-life"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.beyondmommying.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/995","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.beyondmommying.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.beyondmommying.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.beyondmommying.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.beyondmommying.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=995"}],"version-history":[{"count":4,"href":"https:\/\/www.beyondmommying.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/995\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":2294,"href":"https:\/\/www.beyondmommying.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/995\/revisions\/2294"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.beyondmommying.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=995"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.beyondmommying.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=995"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.beyondmommying.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=995"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}