Now that Doodle is here, I am happy that the constant “are you having a boy or a girl?” questioning has ended. \u00a0Unfortunately it’s been replaced with a new and perhaps more irritating question: “Three girls?”<\/p>\n
I usually smile and politely reply “no, the little one is a boy” (while in my head snarkily adding “if you actually looked at the child you would clearly know that”). \u00a0And then the stranger (always) says “finally!” and often also adds “now you’re done.”<\/p>\n
It seems these days it is assumed that every American family wants two children, one of each gender. \u00a0If you have more than this perfect pair, it can *probably* be attributed to one of the following reasons (per public perception): 1) you’re not careful and ended up with “oops” babies, 2) you’re some religious extremist, or 3) if your first two were of the same gender, you were “trying” for the other gender.<\/p>\n
It is perceived hubby and I fall into the last category. \u00a0Most people see us with two girls and a baby and assume we had a third child just to get a boy. \u00a0Of course if you’re familiar with me, you know I really wanted another girl (and when I’m feeling especially snarky I will tell strangers this). \u00a0When hubby and I decided to have another baby “trying” to have a boy was not even discussed. \u00a0We are smart enough to know you get what you get and we just wanted another child, gender was not any part of having a third. \u00a0Of course deep down hubby was hoping for a boy as much as I was hoping for another girl but it is not why we had a third.<\/p>\n
So to set the record straight:\u00a0 We WANTED three kids, and in fact all three of our children were created 100% intentionally and we would have gladly taken 3 girls, 3 boys or whatever we got.\u00a0 Sure, we\u2019ve had our preferences on what we would have liked but ultimately we wanted CHILDREN and gender doesn\u2019t matter.<\/p>\n
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