\u201cAttn:<\/p>\n
I know you were looking forward to your weekend, spending time with your family and having a little time to rest and relax.\u00a0 Unfortunately, I\u2019m going to need you to work on your day off.\u00a0 Not a full day, but almost.\u00a0 And you\u2019re not going to be compensated, not even with a \u2018Thank You.\u2019\u00a0 And just because it\u2019s a weekend doesn\u2019t mean you can take it easy, I\u2019m going to need you to still take care of all of your usual work responsibilities and no, there won\u2019t be anyone else in the office to help you.\u00a0 I\u2019ll be out with my friends, so please don\u2019t bother trying to get a hold of me.<\/p>\n
See you Monday!\u201d<\/p><\/blockquote>\n
Who would put up with that, right? \u00a0Well, that\u2019s how it feels every time you say something like \u201cI\u2019m going out after work\/on the weekend.\u201d\u00a0 I can pretty much guarantee all your spouse hears is \u201cHey, have fun dealing with the kids on your own\u00a0again<\/em>\u00a0while I go have a nice time with my friends.\u201d<\/p>\n I understand that you work very hard during the week and like having the opportunity during your off hours to do things you enjoy and sometimes those things don’t involve your family. \u00a0But what you need to understand is that any second you’re not home, is a second I’m \u00a0doing the same thing. \u00a0In my life it doesn’t matter if it’s Monday or Sunday, whether you’re at work or the golf course, my responsibilities are the same and I don’t know anyone who can handle doing the same thing day after day after day without a break or help (and remember, the only time I’m not working is while ALL the children are sleeping at the same time which usually coincides with the time I need to use to rest and recouperate).<\/p>\n While you get some privacy every morning to get ready for work, my\u00a0bathroom \u201cbreaks\u201d involve company<\/a>\u00a0and when I do get a\u00a0shower<\/a>, it\u2019s usually with a “friend”.<\/p>\n While you get to drive to work in peace each day, my car rides include a\u00a0Frozen<\/em>\u00a0<\/a>sing-along and arguing over whether we\u2019re going to listen to \u201cLove is an Open Door\u201d or skip over it.<\/p>\n While you sip your fresh cup of coffee and chat about the weekend by the water cooler, I guzzle down my cold coffee just to the get the caffeine in my system so I can make it through the day.<\/p>\n While you sit in your nice comfy office chair at your desk, I\u2019m chasing after three kids,\u00a0breaking up fights<\/a>\u00a0and\u00a0cleaning up<\/a>\u00a0constant messes.<\/p>\n While you enjoy a nice lunch with your coworkers, I\u2019m enjoying peanut butter and jelly sandwiches while having chickpeas chucked at my face by an angry toddler (who\u00a0can\u2019t have bread, peanut butter OR jelly<\/a>).<\/p>\n While you are having an afternoon cup of hot coffee, I\u2019m arguing with angry preschoolers over why they\u00a0NEED to take a nap<\/a>.<\/p>\n And while you\u2019re driving home, I\u2019m trying to\u00a0make dinner<\/a>\u00a0while holding a screaming toddler who is hungry and has trouble waiting for you to get home because you\u2019re running late due to \u201cjust one more thing\u201d that needed to get done today.<\/p>\n But\u00a0being a stay at home parent is hard,<\/a>\u00a0exhausting\u00a0<\/a>and overwhelming and sometimes I just want a little help, I just long for a little company and I just need another person around to leave in charge when it gets to be too much and I need a \u201cme\u201d minute.<\/p>\n I look forward to our dinners together and family weekends not only for my sake but because our children look forward to it too.\u00a0 They adore you, wait eagerly for you to arrive home and miss you when you\u2019re gone.<\/p>\n I\u2019m exhausted by having to explain to them why you have to be away again.\u00a0 Why you\u2019re not home even though you don\u2019t have to work.\u00a0 Why you\u2019d rather be with your friends than with us even if you don’t (but they do ask).<\/p>\n I know it can be crazy, but family time is important for all of us and while you may not see it, we\u2019re all better when we\u2019re together. \u00a0(And by the way, I actually like spending time with you and just really wish you were around more.)<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Imagine receiving an email that says something like: \u201cAttn: I know you were looking forward to your weekend, spending time with your family and having a little time to rest and relax.\u00a0 Unfortunately, I\u2019m going to need you to work on your day off.\u00a0 Not a full day, but almost.\u00a0 And you\u2019re not going to 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I get it, we all need a little \u201cme\u201d time in life.\u00a0 But I don\u2019t think\u00a0you<\/em>\u00a0get it: ALL of\u00a0my<\/em>\u00a0time is with-the-kids time.\u00a0 There is NO such thing as \u201cme\u201d time when you\u2019re a stay at home parent.\u00a0 And I don\u2019t understand why your \u201cme\u201d time can\u2019t involve a kid (or two).<\/p>\n![\"\"](\"https:\/\/www.beyondmommying.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/08\/DSC00398.jpg\")
\u00a0Don\u2019t get me wrong, I love\u00a0my job<\/a>.\u00a0 There is no where I would rather be than with my kids, experiencing the world and teaching them everything I know about it.<\/p>\n![\"\"](\"https:\/\/www.beyondmommying.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/08\/DSC01751.jpg\")
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