{"id":3892,"date":"2014-04-10T21:28:23","date_gmt":"2014-04-11T01:28:23","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.beyondmommying.com\/blog\/?p=3892"},"modified":"2015-04-28T14:25:11","modified_gmt":"2015-04-28T18:25:11","slug":"home-without-help","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beyondmommying.com\/blog\/2014\/04\/10\/home-without-help\/","title":{"rendered":"Home without Help"},"content":{"rendered":"

Hubby has been gone the past few days and it\u2019s always stressful when he\u2019s away.\u00a0 I don\u2019t really have much to complain about, I know there are mommies all over the world that have it worse and it\u2019s certainly been worse for me in the past.\u00a0 Hubby is only 30 minutes away but he \u201cgets\u201d to stay in a hotel (and not see us) for 3 full days which is nothing compared to the one week a month he was gone while we were living in Dublin<\/a> or the 13 straight days he was gone when Sugarplum was a few months old and my closest friend was a 20 minute bus ride and my family was (literally) an ocean away and it was chilly and rainy and miserable outside.<\/p>\n

Certainly, 3 days, 2 nights is not a big deal.\u00a0 But it\u2019s reminded me of why I used to yell so much in Dublin.\u00a0 Why I felt so out of control sometimes.\u00a0 Being alone and dealing with an inconsolable, screaming baby<\/a> and trying, sassy two-year old.\u00a0 It wears on you, it breaks you down, it pushes you to your limits.<\/p>\n

And now there are THREE. \u00a0Three little people who require everything you’ve got. \u00a0One little baby that puts everything he can pick up in his mouth. \u00a0One temperamental three-year-old<\/a> that think she is in charge and can boss everyone else around. \u00a0One (still) sassy five-year-old<\/a> who “hates everything” and doesn’t “want to do anything.” \u00a0And you start to lose it.<\/p>\n

Moving the baby away from cat food for the 100th<\/sup> time because someone left the gate open kills your back (and your patience).\u00a0 The thought of asking nicely for the millionth time is too much.\u00a0 Telling the baby \u201cno, no, not for Doodle\u201d in your cute, playful, baby voice one more time makes you want to run and jump in the lake behind your house.<\/p>\n

After a day of doing EVERYTHING and trying to be calm, loving, kind and patient, you start counting down the seconds until bedtime.\u00a0 Until you are finally FREE.\u00a0 Until you can sit down with a glass of\u2026water?\u00a0 Because you don\u2019t drink when you\u2019re home alone<\/a> with the kids because what if there is an emergency?\u00a0 What if you have to call 911?\u00a0 What will the paramedics think if they show up to an emergency and you\u2019ve been drinking?<\/p>\n

\"34e47a24bde611e38c3f0002c9de3a06_8\"<\/a>\u00a0So you sit down to relax with your glass of water and the TV remote and you can finally enjoy some adult entertainment.\u00a0 NO!\u00a0 Not like that! \u00a0You know, the kind that isn\u2019t animated, from a movie or filled with catchy little songs that stick in your head for the rest of eternity.\u00a0 Unless of course you like things like American Idol<\/i> or Dancing with the Stars<\/i> and inevitably one of the contestants chooses a song from Frozen<\/i> (which isn\u2019t really so bad because you secretly love it<\/a> anyways!)<\/p>\n

And then you desperately want, no you NEED, some chocolate ice cream. \u00a0But, of course, no one has been to the store. YOU haven’t been to the store because you’ve been doing everything else just to make it through the day. \u00a0Just to make it to bedtime with everyone \u00a0generally intact, all cuts and scrapes kissed and bandaged (and there are a lot thanks to daddy’s big “no more training wheels” plan.)<\/p>\n

And then you\u2019re bored, lonely and plain exhausted and even though it\u2019s only 9 you head to bed anyways because the baby didn\u2019t nap well and went to bed early which means he\u2019ll be up early and just MAYBE the extra sleep will get you through tomorrow.\u00a0 But you feel like a fool because it\u2019s only 9, you know, the time when other adults are being productive or spending time with their spouse or going out.\u00a0 But you\u2019re in bed because there is no one to talk to you and you certainly can\u2019t go out without your three little ones.<\/p>\n

So you lay there, exhausted but unable to sleep because you can\u2019t stop thinking about tomorrow.\u00a0 About how you\u2019ll probably be up at 5:30 again and how you\u2019ll have to feed everyone, dress everyone and still get your kid to school on time.\u00a0 And you think about how tomorrow morning will be tougher than today was because your three-year-old never actually got dressed (nope, not all day, but she change her pajamas at bedtime).\u00a0 It was a \u201cpick your battles\u201d kind of day and that was the one you chose to let go.\u00a0 \u201cLet it Go! Let it Go! Can\u2019t hold it back anymore\u2026\u201d\u00a0 That song.\u00a0 That damn song (that you secretly love).<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Hubby has been gone the past few days and it\u2019s always stressful when he\u2019s away.\u00a0 I don\u2019t really have much to complain about, I know there are mommies all over the world that have it worse and it\u2019s certainly been worse for me in the past.\u00a0 Hubby is only 30 minutes away but he \u201cgets\u201d […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":3893,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[13,8,9,5],"tags":[39,44,81,166,74,167],"class_list":["post-3892","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-a-mommys-life","category-baby-business","category-family-life","category-mommy-time","tag-baby","tag-bedtime","tag-children","tag-daddys-gone","tag-frustration","tag-tired"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.beyondmommying.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3892","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.beyondmommying.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.beyondmommying.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.beyondmommying.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.beyondmommying.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=3892"}],"version-history":[{"count":3,"href":"https:\/\/www.beyondmommying.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3892\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":8111,"href":"https:\/\/www.beyondmommying.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3892\/revisions\/8111"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.beyondmommying.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/3893"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.beyondmommying.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=3892"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.beyondmommying.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=3892"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.beyondmommying.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=3892"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}