{"id":3607,"date":"2014-03-21T07:51:34","date_gmt":"2014-03-21T11:51:34","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.beyondmommying.com\/blog\/?p=3607"},"modified":"2016-01-18T20:30:04","modified_gmt":"2016-01-19T01:30:04","slug":"mindset-of-my-three-year-old","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beyondmommying.com\/blog\/2014\/03\/21\/mindset-of-my-three-year-old\/","title":{"rendered":"Mindset of My Three-Year-Old"},"content":{"rendered":"

Not too long ago I shared the step by step account of a full-on Sugarplum melt down<\/a>, luckily those types of moments don\u2019t happen very often.\u00a0 Sugarplum is a superbly stubborn and strong-willed child and as such, our days usually go like this:<\/p>\n

Our first full day of spring break, I suggested to the girls that we go out for lunch and stop by the store for groceries for dinner.\u00a0 I go to get dressed (yes, Doodle and I were still in our pajamas at lunch time) and instruct the girls to put their shoes on and find their water cups.<\/p>\n

I walk by the laundry room where shoes are kept on the way to Doodle\u2019s room after getting myself ready.\u00a0 I see Sugarplum sitting on the floor with her rainboots on and water cup next to her.\u00a0 I see Honeybun struggling to put on her hightop sequined sneakers and ask her if she can walk all the way in those.\u00a0 And so it begins:<\/p>\n

\u201cI don\u2019t want to walk, I\u2019m too tired!\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cOk, you can ride in the buggy.\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cI want to take the car!\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cIt\u2019s a nice day, it\u2019s not far and we don\u2019t need the car.\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cI want to take the car!\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cWe\u2019re not taking the car\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cI don\u2019t want this cup!\u201d<\/p>\n

\"SONY<\/p>\n

By this point I\u2019m done getting Doodle ready.\u00a0 I grab my water bottle and fill it up.\u00a0 I get Sugarplum\u2019s cup and go to fill it up.\u00a0 Realizing it\u2019s dirty, I put it in the sink and get a clean cup for each of the girls.\u00a0 I hand Honeybun her cup and she waits nicely by the door.\u00a0 I try to hand Sugarplum her cup and it continues:<\/p>\n

\u201cYour other cup was dirty.\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cI want a cup like Honeybun\u2019s!\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cThat is the cup I made you.\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cI don\u2019t want this cup!\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cOk, then Doodle can drink from that cup.\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cI don\u2019t want him to have it!\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cThen take it.\u201d<\/p>\n

She takes the cup and walks to the door.\u00a0 I start to set the alarm when I notice the girls are looking a little raggedy.\u00a0 I ask them to go get their hairbrushes.\u00a0 Honeybun quickly runs off to get hers.<\/p>\n

\u201cI don\u2019t want to get my brush!\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cHoneybun, can you bring Sugarplum\u2019s also please?\u201d<\/p>\n

Honeybun returns with both brushes and brushes her own hair while I brush Sugarplum\u2019s hair.<\/p>\n

\u201cI don\u2019t want you to brush my hair!\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cWe can\u2019t go until everyone\u2019s hair is brushed.\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cI don\u2019t want to!\u201d<\/p>\n

Sugarplum pushes her head against the dryer.\u00a0 I continue to brush as best I can.<\/p>\n

\u201cI brushed my hair and put it up.\u00a0 Honeybun has brushed her hair and when I\u2019m done with yours I\u2019ll brush Doodle\u2019s too.\u00a0 Everyone needs their hair brushed before we can leave.\u201d<\/p>\n

I finish brushing, do Doodle\u2019s hair and it starts again:<\/p>\n

\u201cI don\u2019t want to walk, it\u2019s too far!\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cThen you can ride in the buggy.\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cI want to take the car!\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cWe\u2019re not taking the car.\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cNOOO!\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cWe cannot leave the house until you have control of yourself.\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cI want to take the car!\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cHoneybun, I guess we can\u2019t go to lunch.\u00a0 Let\u2019s go find something to eat here.\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cI don\u2019t want to go!\u00a0 I want to stay home!\u201d<\/p>\n

By this point Honeybun and I are at the fridge.\u00a0 Honeybun chooses leftover pasta.<\/p>\n

\u201cI don\u2019t want pasta!\u00a0 I want to GO!\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cThen get control of yourself.\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cNOOO!\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cHoneybun, what do you want with your pasta.\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cI don\u2019t want to stay here!\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cWe can\u2019t go until you get control of yourself.\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cI want to stay home!\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cOk, we are since you can\u2019t get control of yourself.\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cNOOO!\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cShould we go now?\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cI want to go!\u201d<\/p>\n

Sugarplum is still sitting by the door crying.<\/p>\n

\u201cOk, but you still don\u2019t have control.\u00a0 I\u2019m going to count to 5 and if you don\u2019t have control of yourself, we are not going.\u00a0 One.\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cI don\u2019t want you to count!\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cTwo.\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cI want to go!\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cYou\u2019re still screaming.\u00a0 Three.\u201d<\/p>\n

<whimpers><\/p>\n

\u201cFour. Are you ready?\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cI don\u2019t want to go.\u00a0 I want to stay here!\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cFive.\u00a0 Sorry Honeybun.\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cI want to go to the restaurant!\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cToo late, I counted to 5.\u00a0 We\u2019re staying here.\u201d<\/p>\n

I put the pasta in the pan and look for some sauce.\u00a0 Sugarplum has regained her composure:<\/p>\n

\u201cMommy, I want to go now.\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cI told you we were not going if you were not ready by the time I counted to five.\u00a0 If we go now, would that make me a liar?\u00a0 I don\u2019t want to be a liar.\u201d<\/p>\n

(Honeybun interjects how lying can send you to jail.)<\/p>\n

\u201cI want to take the car!\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cIf we go we are not taking the car.\u00a0 It\u2019s a nice day.\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cI\u2019m too tired to walk!\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cIt\u2019s okay because we aren\u2019t going to go anyways.\u00a0 I already started lunch.\u201d<\/p>\n

Sugarplum runs crying into her room.\u00a0 I finish preparing lunch and plate it up and we all sit down.<\/p>\n

\u201cI don\u2019t want pasta!\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cWell, that\u2019s what Honeybun chose because she didn\u2019t throw a fit.\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cI wanted to chose.\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cThen you shouldn\u2019t have been ridiculous.\u00a0 You were ridiculous about walking, you were ridiculous about the cup I gave you and you were ridiculous about brushing your hair.\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cI want to go out!\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cIt\u2019s too late, lunch is ready!\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cI\u2019m not hungry.\u00a0 I just want to go to nap.\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cIt\u2019s not nap time yet.\u00a0 You can lay down at 1.\u201d<\/p>\n

Meanwhile, I\u2019ve finished my lunch and Honeybun is almost done.\u00a0 I slice an apple to share.<\/p>\n

\u201cMommy, I want some apple.\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cOk, you can have apple.\u00a0 But Honeybun and I are going to have some dip with it because we finished our lunch but you can not have dip if you don\u2019t eat your lunch.\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cOk.\u201d<\/p>\n

Sugarplum eats every bite of her lunch and her apples.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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