{"id":3588,"date":"2014-03-19T08:55:23","date_gmt":"2014-03-19T12:55:23","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.beyondmommying.com\/blog\/?p=3588"},"modified":"2016-01-18T20:30:22","modified_gmt":"2016-01-19T01:30:22","slug":"dealing-with-a-disservice","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beyondmommying.com\/blog\/2014\/03\/19\/dealing-with-a-disservice\/","title":{"rendered":"Dealing with a Disservice"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Life has become really overwhelming for me for some reason lately (hence my desire to run off to a <a href=\"https:\/\/www.beyondmommying.com\/blog\/2014\/03\/13\/on-a-deserted-island\/\">deserted island<\/a> with my family).\u00a0 I think it\u2019s because I\u2019m starting to realize how little of my life I\u2019m actually in control of.\u00a0 And it\u2019s not even that my life is run by three tiny little drill sergeants, it\u2019s the work and school schedules that are pushing me to the brink.<\/p>\n<p>Honeybun\u2019s spring break is next week and we plan to go away. \u00a0Her break officially stats Thursday afternoon after a half day of school but we still don\u2019t have a plan.\u00a0 We don\u2019t know where we\u2019re going because I\u2019m irritated.\u00a0 I\u2019m frustrated that Honeybun has 11 days off of school but because of my work schedule and hubby\u2019s we can only get away for 4.\u00a0 And I\u2019m frustrated that everything is so expensive because it\u2019s spring break and everyone wants to travel so companies charge more.\u00a0 And I\u2019m irritated that we live so gosh-darn far south and it takes close to 5 hours just to get OUT of Florida!<\/p>\n<p>All the frustration has made my mind return to the dream of homeschooling.\u00a0 I first considered homeschooling when Honeybun was just a few weeks old, I knew she was a bright kid and I worried from the start about how she would do in a traditional school.\u00a0 I did what I could to get her in the best situation possible at our local school (see <a href=\"https:\/\/www.beyondmommying.com\/blog\/2013\/08\/04\/off-to-a-rocky-start\/\">&#8220;Off to a Rocky Start&#8221;<\/a> for our journey), but it still hasn\u2019t met my expectations.\u00a0 We&#8217;ve gotten by because I try not to think about it.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\" wp-image-3589 alignright\" alt=\"IMG_20140315_194225\" src=\"https:\/\/www.beyondmommying.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/03\/IMG_20140315_194225-300x300.jpg\" width=\"156\" height=\"156\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.beyondmommying.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/03\/IMG_20140315_194225-300x300.jpg 300w, https:\/\/www.beyondmommying.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/03\/IMG_20140315_194225-100x100.jpg 100w, https:\/\/www.beyondmommying.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/03\/IMG_20140315_194225-600x600.jpg 600w, https:\/\/www.beyondmommying.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/03\/IMG_20140315_194225-250x250.jpg 250w, https:\/\/www.beyondmommying.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/03\/IMG_20140315_194225-1024x1024.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/www.beyondmommying.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/03\/IMG_20140315_194225-60x60.jpg 60w, https:\/\/www.beyondmommying.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/03\/IMG_20140315_194225-115x115.jpg 115w, https:\/\/www.beyondmommying.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/03\/IMG_20140315_194225-390x390.jpg 390w, https:\/\/www.beyondmommying.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/03\/IMG_20140315_194225.jpg 1952w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 156px) 100vw, 156px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>The truth is, when I do think about it I get really upset.\u00a0 I get upset because I know she is not living the life she deserves to have.\u00a0 She\u2019s five and I know that five year olds should be playing, exploring, creating, problem solving, make believing, climbing, running and learning through these activities.\u00a0 Five year olds should not be sitting down learning.<\/p>\n<p>This is Honeybun\u2019s typical day:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>6:30-7:15\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 wake up, eat breakfast and get ready for school<\/li>\n<li>730-1:50\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 at school<\/li>\n<li>1:50-2:30\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 walk home from school, play and relax<\/li>\n<li>2:30-3:00\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 do homework<\/li>\n<li>3:00-5:00\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 take a nap\/rest<\/li>\n<li>5:00-6:30 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 have a snack, play<\/li>\n<li>6:30-8:00\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 eat dinner, get ready for bed<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>As you can see, there is very little time for playing.\u00a0 She gets pretty much no free-play time at school other than a short recess (the one time she did get free choice, she was so excited to tell me all about it) and usually tells me school is boring and that she didn\u2019t learn anything.\u00a0 Homework is always a struggle and she has starting telling me almost daily \u201cI don\u2019t want to do homework.\u00a0 I\u2019m not going to do it!\u201d (Our homework struggles go way back, see <a href=\"https:\/\/www.beyondmommying.com\/blog\/2013\/10\/03\/parentwork\/\">&#8220;Parentwork&#8221;<\/a>, <a href=\"https:\/\/www.beyondmommying.com\/blog\/2014\/01\/10\/the-forgotten-folder\/\">&#8220;The Forgotten Folder&#8221;<\/a>\u00a0and <a href=\"https:\/\/www.beyondmommying.com\/blog\/2013\/01\/23\/battle-of-mommy-vs-educator\/\">&#8220;Battle of Mommy versus Educator&#8221;<\/a>.)<\/p>\n<p>Yes, I could take away her nap\/resting time, but she needs that time to rest her body after a long day of inappropriate learning experiences and expectations (as discussed in <a href=\"https:\/\/www.beyondmommying.com\/blog\/2014\/02\/13\/update-the-needed-nap\/\">&#8220;The Needed Nap&#8221;<\/a>). And because she has to wake up so early, if we did without nap she\u2019d need to go to bed earlier and then we wouldn\u2019t get to have a <a href=\"https:\/\/www.beyondmommying.com\/blog\/2013\/01\/27\/making-dinner-family-time\/\">family dinner<\/a>\u00a0 which is so important to us.\u00a0 It\u2019s a tough situation, but I can tell you that without the time to rest, the point of a family dinner is lost because she just can\u2019t handle it.<\/p>\n<p>It breaks my heart to see her already hating school.\u00a0 It makes me sad to know that she should have a better day and more time to play.\u00a0 It makes me want to take her away from her frustrations and show her the world.\u00a0 I want to help her learn in her own way and time.\u00a0 I want her to be curious and love learning new things.<\/p>\n<p>Each day I move closer and closer to pulling the trigger and switching to homeschool because I no longer believe in the American school system.\u00a0 And I don\u2019t think it\u2019s just public schools, I think private and charter schools are just as bad with placing unrealistically advanced and mature expectations on young children.\u00a0 I truly feel we have lost sight of what how young children learn and what young children really need and until we come back to putting children\u2019s needs first, I think America will continue to see a shift towards parents taking over their children\u2019s education and choosing to homeschool.<\/p>\n<p>People don\u2019t continue to utilize other professionals (like doctors, lawyers, accountants, etc.) whom they don\u2019t feel have their best interests at heart so why do we continue to entrust our youngest citizens to a system that is failing them?<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Life has become really overwhelming for me for some reason lately (hence my desire to run off to a deserted island with my family).\u00a0 I think it\u2019s because I\u2019m starting to realize how little of my life I\u2019m actually in control of.\u00a0 And it\u2019s not even that my life is run by three tiny little [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":3589,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[284],"tags":[124,77,82,125,85,126],"class_list":["post-3588","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-the-home-school-zone","tag-homework","tag-kindergarten","tag-napping","tag-play","tag-school","tag-spring-break"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.beyondmommying.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3588","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.beyondmommying.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.beyondmommying.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.beyondmommying.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.beyondmommying.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=3588"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/www.beyondmommying.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3588\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":3590,"href":"https:\/\/www.beyondmommying.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3588\/revisions\/3590"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.beyondmommying.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/3589"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.beyondmommying.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=3588"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.beyondmommying.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=3588"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.beyondmommying.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=3588"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}