{"id":1620,"date":"2013-10-17T15:15:39","date_gmt":"2013-10-17T19:15:39","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.beyondmommying.com\/blog\/?p=1620"},"modified":"2016-01-18T20:53:12","modified_gmt":"2016-01-19T01:53:12","slug":"additional-activities","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beyondmommying.com\/blog\/2013\/10\/17\/additional-activities\/","title":{"rendered":"Additional Activities"},"content":{"rendered":"

In many ways, we are the anti-parents in America. \u00a0There are many panting norms that we do not believe in or follow. \u00a0Most of our parenting differences fall in the “children should be allowed to be children” category.<\/p>\n

This means we don’t believe toddlers should be in “school”. \u00a0We don’t believe pre-schoolers should be “learning” while at school. \u00a0We don’t believe young elementary school students should have homework. We don’t believe young children need to be enrolled in numerous extra-curricular activities.<\/p>\n

We believe all these things because we know children learn through playing and that pushing children into early school, learning and activities does not make a difference in their future development, growth or potential. \u00a0We know that what does make a difference is providing children with a stable, loving and supportive growing environment where they feel secure and able to explore, learn and make mistakes on their own.<\/p>\n

When Honeybun\u00a0was a baby we had a discussion about what our children were going to “be” and what activities we would put them in. \u00a0We agreed that our children could be and do anything they wanted (with the exception of soccer…we have no interest in being soccer parents!). \u00a0While we still hold this opinion, the way we approach extra-curriculars for our girls has evolved over time as we have gotten to know the individually.<\/p>\n

We waited until Honeybun\u00a0was 4 before enrolling her in any extra-curriculars. \u00a0Last fall I gave her the choice to ballet, tap and jazz or gymnastics. \u00a0She chose ballet and I’m so glad she did not because I was (am?) a ballerina but because I now see that it suits her. \u00a0She is the type of child that would prefer to sit on the couch and read books (or ideally watch TV) than run around outside. \u00a0She has also been a good direction follower but is very hesitant to try new things. \u00a0All of these traits come in handy for ballet where classes are comprised of listening\/watching, doing, listening\/watching, doing and students are expected to stay in one place while listening\/ watching, doing. \u00a0This is not a skill that comes easily to all children and can make ballet class frustrating for both the child and teacher.<\/p>\n

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Sugarplum is the later child and the polar opposite of Honeybun. \u00a0She is the run around, be loud, flip over the back of the couch and resist direction following type of child. \u00a0She is also insanely flexible and unusually strong so we decided to encourage her to try gymnastics rather than ballet. \u00a0She has now completed 6 weeks of gymnastics classes and is loving it! \u00a045 minutes of jumping, flipping, balancing and non-stop moving.<\/p>\n

When I enrolled Sugarplum in gymnastics, Honeybun\u00a0really wanted to do it too but we have decided to limit them each to 1 activity and class per week. \u00a0This is due to cost but also time. \u00a0At 3 and 5 years, my children don’t need multiple days of activities. \u00a0What they will learn in a year now they could easily learn in a month when they are older so activities at this point are more for social development and learning respect and listening skills.<\/p>\n

\"1017131044\"<\/a>\u00a0Both girls are excelling in their own activity. \u00a0Honeybun ‘s\u00a0ballet teacher (who happens to also be one of my students) tells me often how great she is doing and that she is a “super star!” \u00a0And just today Sugarplum got switched to another gymnastics teacher that is working on a more advanced skill set and one of the staff told me she is “really very good.”<\/p>\n

If either girl ever wants to switch, I will of course let them try but at tis time I feel they have each found their individual niche in which they can be successful. \u00a0I also really like that they each have their own set of skills to be proud of and there is no comparing who is doing better because they are both doing great at their own things.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

In many ways, we are the anti-parents in America. \u00a0There are many panting norms that we do not believe in or follow. \u00a0Most of our parenting differences fall in the “children should be allowed to be children” category. This means we don’t believe toddlers should be in “school”. \u00a0We don’t believe pre-schoolers should be “learning” […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[284],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-1620","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-the-home-school-zone"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.beyondmommying.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1620","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.beyondmommying.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.beyondmommying.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.beyondmommying.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.beyondmommying.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=1620"}],"version-history":[{"count":5,"href":"https:\/\/www.beyondmommying.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1620\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":10033,"href":"https:\/\/www.beyondmommying.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1620\/revisions\/10033"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.beyondmommying.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=1620"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.beyondmommying.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=1620"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.beyondmommying.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=1620"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}