{"id":1115,"date":"2013-07-17T13:43:03","date_gmt":"2013-07-17T17:43:03","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.beyondmommying.com\/blog\/?p=1115"},"modified":"2013-12-16T12:16:59","modified_gmt":"2013-12-16T17:16:59","slug":"whos-the-boss","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beyondmommying.com\/blog\/2013\/07\/17\/whos-the-boss\/","title":{"rendered":"Who&#8217;s the Boss?"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>In accordance with \u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/www.beyondmommying.com\/blog\/2013\/06\/24\/the-roy-theory\/\">&#8220;The Roy Theory&#8221;<\/a>, my personal theory of developmental stages, Sugarplum\u00a0is definitely in the \u201cDictator\u201d phase.\u00a0 She believes she can boss everyone else around and constantly says \u201cI want\u201d.\u00a0 She wants to do whatever she wants and also wants to be in control of what everyone else is doing.\u00a0 If she doesn\u2019t get what she wants she loses all control of herself and it can sometimes take a long time for her to calm down and get control of herself.<\/p>\n<p>We are working on getting Sugarplum\u00a0to ask for things nicely and to not get upset when she doesn\u2019t get her way, but there is one\u00a0<span style=\"line-height: 1.7;\">complicating factor: Honeybun.\u00a0 I predicted that the 5-6 phase would be the \u201cPleaser\u201d but I\u2019m not sure that\u2019s going to stick.\u00a0 Right now she\u2019s more of the \u201cMini Mommy.\u201d\u00a0 Tagging on to the \u201cKnow-It-All\u201d phase, she now thinks she knows enough to be able to boss around Sugarplum.\u00a0 She is constantly telling Sugarplum\u00a0what she can and cannot do and I have to remind her she is not in charge.\u00a0 Often Honeybun will tell Sugarplum\u00a0she can do something and then when I tell Sugarplum\u00a0she cannot and Honeybun is not in charge, we end up in a major Sugarplum\u00a0melt-down.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>Honeybun&#8217;s bossiness has gotten so regular that Sugarplum\u00a0has bought into her having decision making power and I now hear Sugarplum\u00a0asking her things instead of asking hubby or me.\u00a0 Yesterday Sugarplum\u00a0asked Honeybun if she could have a snack out of the cupboard after nap without even acknowledging me.\u00a0 We\u2019re definitely in a trying behavior cycle (see\u00a0<a style=\"line-height: 1.7;\" href=\"https:\/\/www.beyondmommying.com\/blog\/2013\/02\/22\/the-good-the-bad-and-the-cycle\/\">&#8220;The Good, The Bad and The Cycle&#8221;<\/a><span style=\"line-height: 1.7;\">) which I hope will be done soon.\u00a0 I feel like I spend all day saying:<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u201cYou\u2019re using your \u2018want\u2019 words again.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>\u201cCan you ask my nicely?\u201d<\/p>\n<p>\u201cSugarplum, you\u2019re not in charge of me.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>\u201cHoneybun, you\u2019re not in charge of Sugarplum.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>\u201cSugarplum, is Honeybun the boss of you?\u201d<\/p>\n<p>\u201cHoneybun, it is not your job to tell Sugarplum\u00a0what to do.\u201d<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>In accordance with \u00a0&#8220;The Roy Theory&#8221;, my personal theory of developmental stages, Sugarplum\u00a0is definitely in the \u201cDictator\u201d phase.\u00a0 She believes she can boss everyone else around and constantly says \u201cI want\u201d.\u00a0 She wants to do whatever she wants and also wants to be in control of what everyone else is doing.\u00a0 If she doesn\u2019t get [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[13],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-1115","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-a-mommys-life"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.beyondmommying.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1115","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.beyondmommying.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.beyondmommying.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.beyondmommying.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.beyondmommying.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=1115"}],"version-history":[{"count":5,"href":"https:\/\/www.beyondmommying.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1115\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":1117,"href":"https:\/\/www.beyondmommying.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1115\/revisions\/1117"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.beyondmommying.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=1115"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.beyondmommying.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=1115"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.beyondmommying.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=1115"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}