{"id":1086,"date":"2013-07-09T16:01:06","date_gmt":"2013-07-09T20:01:06","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.beyondmommying.com\/blog\/?p=1086"},"modified":"2016-01-18T21:03:22","modified_gmt":"2016-01-19T02:03:22","slug":"shut-it-down","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beyondmommying.com\/blog\/2013\/07\/09\/shut-it-down\/","title":{"rendered":"Shut it Down!"},"content":{"rendered":"

My girls are champion arguers. Honeybun’s always been good at trying to prove her point and insists on having the last word (see “Is This a Joke?”<\/a>\u00a0and\u00a0“Preschool Sassing”<\/a>) and now Sugarplum\u00a0has come into the same phase.\u00a0 Part of Sugarplum’s\u00a0arguing is her age as she comes into what I classify as \u201cthe dictator\u201d stage (see “The Roy Theory”<\/a>) and part of it is mimicking her sister and picking up on Honeybun’s language and behavior.<\/span><\/p>\n

I love that my girls show streaks of independence and want to stand up for themselves as these are skills they will need as they grow and spend more time away from home.\u00a0 I want them to be able to assert themselves and believe in and stand up for what they know is right but at home, I expect them to be respectful of what hubby and I tell them and to not argue about things that are regular routines and expectations.<\/span><\/p>\n

Over the years I\u2019ve had highs and lows with being able to deal with the arguing.\u00a0 When things are going well I am able to quickly and easily shut down their arguing behavior using concise statements which do not allow for arguing, negotiating or getting their way. \u00a0I find I have to rotate using them because just like anything else, if one way is used too often is become ineffectual.\u00a0 Here are the ones I find the most useful:<\/p>\n